Everyone always says the one thing that keeps couples together is communication, yet very few couples actually know how to do it.
Me and Jacob in June of 2016
…and then again in May of 2018
Adapt to your partner’s love language.
Communication is way more than “where were you last night?” or “where did you put the car keys”, it’s also about how you express your love for the other person. Figure out what your partner’s love language is, and if you don’t know what a “love language” is, read this book: The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. I know that book is from 1995, but it has really good points about how to give, receive, and communicate your love with your partner. If you’re the type of person to receive love from “words of affirmation”, but your partner is the type to receive love from “acts of service”; you might have to adapt how you show your love to your partner. Speaking in the same language really helps when communicating.
Remember to have realistic expectations for a relationship.
A relationship where you always understand each other, never get into any fights (ever), communicate telepathically, and inherently know what the needs and wants of the other person doesn’t exist. Don’t expect that. There will be conflict, but when it comes, know how to handle it. ALSO, don’t naively expect that a relationship must have flowers/chocolate/diamonds or any other romance novel bullshit. I personally love flowers, but I don’t inherently expect Jacob to get them for me as a tenant of our relationship. Learn to appreciate the little things in life, but don’t let a $10/$20/$30-whatever priced flower bouquet determine the stability of your relationship.
Settle Arguments quickly and effectively.
Every time me and Jacob get in a fight, he tells me his view of the argument, and I tell him mine. We both keep an open mind, which can be hard to do, but it’s not impossible. If it gets really heated, we’ll take a break to calm down. Taking an hour or two break can be super effective helping both parties to step back and see both sides of the argument. Compromise is key when dealing with an issue, but never compromise on your moral or religious beliefs. Never compromise who you are for the sake of your relationship. A good partner supports the fundamentals of who you are, and should respect them no matter what.
Don’t be afraid to tell your partner things that you do and don’t like about your relationship.
Telling your partner these things can make you much happier in your relationship. Communicate with your partner, but don’t accuse them or get argumentative. Instead of “You never take me out.” say “I wish we would go out more”. Say “I like it when you …, but it would be better if you did this”. Don’t be afraid to say “[insert partner name here], we need to talk about some things”. It’s sad that this is a common phrase to say when someone breaks up with their partner, because that means they’ve never said this phrase during their relationship. They’ve never communicated with each other about what needs to change to make this relationship works, until they’ve had enough, and are ready to leave.
I know what you’re thinking, spinach AND artichoke TOGETHER? Sounds gross right? Surprise! It’s not. This dip will be completely gone at ANY party you make it for. It is DE-LIC-IOUS. Trust me.
16 oz cream cheese (ALDI has the cheapest cream cheese)
3 TBSP milk
4 strips of bacon*
8 oz jar of artichoke hearts (ALDI also has the cheapest artichoke hearts, doesn’t matter if they are “marinated” or not)
1 cup frozen spinach
1/2 teaspoon garlic powder (use less if necessary)
1/2 teaspoon onion powder
Cast Iron Skillet (Regular skillets work too, but cast iron skillets retain heat when served and therefore keep the spinach dip warm for extended periods of time– plus it looks cooler)
Bag of tortilla chips (for serving)
1/2 cup Parmesan cheese (optional)
1. Chop the artichoke hearts and frozen spinach into small pieces, and set aside for later usage.
2. Simmer bacon in Cast Iron Skillet on medium, until golden brown on one side, then flip.
3. Once bacon is golden brown on both sides, set aside bacon for later usage. DO NOT THROW OUT THE BACON FAT.
4. Add the chopped up artichoke hearts and frozen spinach to the bacon fat, stirring occasionally, simmer for 5 minutes on medium.
5. Add the cream cheese to the Cast Iron Skillet, and constantly stir the mixture until the spinach/artichoke and the cream cheese are mostly incorporated (about 2 minutes).
6. Add the milk, the garlic powder, and onion powder to the Cast Iron Skillet. Stir until the milk, garlic powder, and onion powder are completely incorporated. Add more milk, one TBSP at a time, if the mixture is too thick until desired consistency is achieved.
7. Smooth the top of the dip with a spatula to make it look prettier.
8. OPTIONAL STEP: this makes the dip look better, because it gives an amazing golden-brown, cheesy, delicious topping BUT it never fails to crack the average tortilla chip eventually (because the topping becomes hard as it cools). Pick your poison. Anyways, sprinkle Parmesan Cheese on top of dip, and brown in oven with broiler for 2 to 4 minutes or until the cheese becomes an amazing golden brown color.
9. Crumble the bacon and put bacon crumbles on top of dip, and serve in the Cast Iron Skillet with tortilla chips on the side!**
*This recipe can be made vegetarian if butter (3TBSP) or olive oil is used instead of bacon fat
**Make sure to put a hot-pad underneath the Cast Iron Skillet to prevent the pan from making a permanent mark on your kitchen table or counter
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